Oh so many reasons.
1) it equates the anger of the oppressed to the hate of their oppressors.
2) it blames oppressed groups for their oppression. Bigotry doesn’t exist because people hate bigots. It exists because oppressed people oppose it. It exists because of bigots and because of privileged folks being complicit or tacitly condoning systems of oppression.
3) it’s fundamentally untrue. Hatred of oppression doesn’t lead to more hatred; it leads to progress.
4) it is used to attack any attempt by oppressed people to obtain liberation. Point out that something or someone is repulsively racist and all of a sudden you’re “breeding more hate”.
It’s a fundamental misrepresentation of reality that blames victims and excuses fucked up behavior.
as for the whole ‘is the Soldier problematic’ argument popping up here or there yes of COURSE he is portrayed as a problematic person
like… that’s unfortunately the joke
the man is based off of R. Lee Ermey for God’s sake
the entire idea behind the Soldier is that he is not as hateful as R. Lee Ermey’s typical characters, rather, he’s just ignorant about it
And it’s NOT just one kind of person: the idea is that the Soldier will find faults with whoever you are. It doesn’t make the shit he says OKAY but that’s more on Valve’s part than anything else.
This is only one example, but the Soldier is constantly about-facing when he’s found wrong. He’s hard-headed about the shit he thinks he knows until he’s proven wrong. The rest (his hardened sense of nationality, his violent tendencies,) are honestly just written for slap stick gags we see in nearly every comic. It’s his shtick.
Again, that doesn’t make the transphobic or homophobic or other unkind things he says okay, no, but it really kind of comes with the baggage of being modeled after Ermey; (none of the things many of Ermey’s characters say are right either, if you’ll recall in Full Metal Jacket it’s his hard ass character that gets himself shot,) the entire POINT behind the Soldier being that he is actually a kind man with many facets and actually very much UNLIKE Ermey’s portrayed hardened characters.
It’s like the Soldier is parroting what he thinks would make him sound more like a bad ass at the moment, most of which is absolute garbage-Which is the joke. If he weren’t just spewing trash words then he would not respect Miss Pauling, the Administrator, his fellow team mates, or have a black best friend. But he DOES. His words come out of ignorance but his actions speak a little louder, this back and forth is unfortunately his calling card.
As for the shipping, ship whatever the fuck you want, ship him with Demo ship him with anyone make him asexual it’s all valid and important it’s a video game it is a fake character that picks his nose, dresses up as a robot and slathers honey all over himself for God’s sake he’s not meant to be taken this seriously.